I have enjoyed meeting your family and being allowed in your home over the years. Remember when we played ball together? That was pretty cool. We’ve have been spotted out on double dates with our wives. It’s the kind of camaraderie that brings a locker room together.
It’s unfortunate that you and your wife have hit a rough patch. I know filing for divorce is hard and the most difficult part is shielding your children from the controversy. It’s not like your wife is a stranger to social media or reality television so clearly this is a private matter that is in clear view of the public. Having just concluded a divorce proceeding myself, I can empathize with your trouble and as a brother, I will be here if you need someone to talk to.
If you need me, I’ll be at your house with Gloria. I’ll make sure that our private parties are away from your boys and that they are in their rooms during the festivities. The best way to get over a divorce is to par-tay! So I’ll make sure she’s doing right by you in your house. I got you Matt! You’re my boy Blue! Did I forget to mention she makes a bomb Margarita!?
I’m sure if New York Knicks head coach, Derek Fisher, had at least written the preceding (satirical) letter to former teammate, Memphis Grizzles SF Matt Barnes, that Barnes would have been more understanding of Fisher’s relationship with his estranged wife and reality tv star, Gloria Govan. The former couple have been married since 2012. Multiple media reports state that they separated last October and that Govan and Fisher have been dating for months.
It all came to an abrupt halt in early October when (depending on whom you believe) Barnes drove to his home after FaceTimeing his kids and finding out the Fisher was there with his wife. His sons said their mom was with her “friend Derek”. Some reports have Barnes driving 95 miles to his home. Allegedly, Barnes entered, found the party, and physically confronted Fisher. He is also said to have spit in Govan’s face.
Regardless of who you believe, the damage has been done. Barnes described Fisher to ESPN’s Ramona Shelbourne as a “good friend”. As long as I can remember, my friends and I operated by one unbreakable rule when it comes to women; Bros before (females). In high school this was the mantra as we navigated the hallways and girlfriends parent’s homes. If I liked a girl and my friend liked the same girl, she chose her suitor and then the odd man out had to move on. If one of us would develop feelings for a girl after a friend had dated her then it was understood that you kept those feelings bottled up. It was a considered a “No Fly Zone”.
Even as an adult, I know there are things you don’t do and places you don’t go. If a woman considers herself separated, estranged, married, or if her significant other is in the military and deployed; under no circumstance would I allow myself to get involved with her. Maybe my upbringing is different than Fishers’.
There is no excuse for him to be in the home of a NBA player, let alone date the wife of one of his ex-teammates and friends. As a professional athlete and coach, Fisher could garner the attention of a totally different class of female than I’ve ever had access to. He doesn’t have to make an account on Tinder. He doesn’t have to hit the club every weekend. He doesn’t have to try speed dating.
There are plenty of women that are just as beautiful Govan. Maybe there is an intellectual or spiritual attraction that Fisher and Govan share. However, when a man considers you his friend you have no business “house sitting” for him when he is going through a divorce. If anything, as a friend, I am trying to to help you move on. I’m going to try as much as I can to help you get through it. We are going to be campaigning and champagning until you find another muse.
Then again, I am not Derek Fisher. The way he chose to recover from his own divorce was to further complicate his friend’s ongoing divorce. There are a lot of women out there, Fisher. A lot of fish in the sea.